Random blogpost.
{ Saturday, December 4, 2010
2:23 AM }
I've been writing letters for ppl next yr, for the day when we officially graduate.
I've been thinking if I should write letters even for the people that I generally don't enjoy being with a lot.
So I went through their blogs, and ah-ha, I was amazed at how much excuses they can come up with for not being liked.
It never fails to amuse me when someone pushes the blame to other ppl and not think about what made their r/s with others go wrong.
Let's go through a few reasons that they come up with for not being liked.
1. I'm too Frank.
Look champion, even when you're frank, you can still get along with ppl.
Look, I'm super damn frank with my friends, but they get where I'm going.
The problem is not with the fact that you're frank, it's the fact that you revealed how shallow of a person you are by judging ppl with such thinking.
Being frank is one thing, being shallow is another- don't mix the 2 up.
2. They've changed.
No, they didn't. More like, they didn't change to bully you.
It's probably because of the way you act that cause them to repel you.
There's always a bottomline to someone's tolerance level.
You can't expect them to be a jolly old sandbag that takes all your punches.
Lemme try that on you, and let's see if you can take it.
If you can't, the same fucking rule applies to everyone else.
3. They don't understand me.
This is as simple as it gets.
They don't understand you, simply because you didn't give them a chance to do so.
R/s are like enzymes.
The freaking "lock and key" hypothesis applies.
Obviously, you, the enzyme, is not giving the substrate a chance because you're so damn denatured.
4. The opp sex understands me better.
No, they don't understand you better.
It's just because you present a diff side of the story to em'.
Don't tell me that you don't do so- that'll be bullcrap.
Cos' you know what? We all do.
When you have so little friends left, you'll want to keep those left.
And in order to do so, you'll obviously tweek the story to make yourself look better, to look like the victim so that they'll sympathize with you and stay with you.
So in conclusion, the opp sex DOESN'T understand you.
They understand the fake you- hallelujah, true friends, huh?
5. Other ppl who aren't biased knows me better than they do.
Same rule applies to what I said in 4.
No, they don't understand you better.
They only see the side of you that you want them to see.
You're afraid- that's all there is to it.
But by doing so, they're not really understanding YOU, are they?
Or wait- sometimes, they may not even be listening to you.
Ok, I can go on and on about this thing, but I guess I really should stop.
Finding excuses constantly won't help you to make true friends dear, that's sad but true.
Make an effort to change the way you behave.
No, it'll not make you unlike you.
It'll just make you into a better you.
After so many years, if you still fail to understand this concept, then sorry, you're gonna be one loner in the end when you realise that there's really no one that you can talk to afterall.
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Life update:
Sleepover's done. Fucking awesome. I'm gonna plan one again. Hell yeah.
Took a personality test, it was the same as before, just that I got more introverted, awesome.
It amazes me that I scored higher for math than music.
Wtf, this is so not true, lmao!
Omgwtfbbq- there's an INTJ forum.
http://www.mypersonality.info/personality-types/intj/ < na, read more here.
Jane Austen, C.S lewis (author of chronicles of Narnia), lots of USA presidents and political leaders are INTJs. MR DARCY IS AN INTJ TOO! OH HOTNESS.
Imma joining the fb page. O:
I am a tired human being.